Simple Side Dish

I love cooking and coming up with new recipes to add to the menu, but now that summer is here I find myself wanting to make an easy no fuss dinner. Probably because by the time dinner rolls around I'm wore out from keeping the kids busy all day. I'm gonna be honest, I'm not the most organized when it comes to meal planning in the summer either! That's why I love having a simple go to recipe that my family actually enjoys. I never really thought this rice was a big deal until I married my husband. It's something I started making to compliment all of my taco and burrito cravings at 18 years old. Since then I have added a few ingredients here and there depending on how fancy I'm feeling for dinner.

Last night was one of those nights that I wanted something good, but fast. I went with some chicken and black bean burritos, and of course this easy rice side dish. The kids always know when a Mexican dish is on it's way when they smell the rice getting "toasty" in the pot. My daughter also gets excited because there's not much left to clean up after since they empty the bowl!

The essentials are pretty minimal to make this dish, which my kids call "taco rice." The cook time is about 30 minutes, but the best part is once you pop the lid on you don't have to do anything else until it's done! Seriously, just let it cook while you set the table and grab a drink!

This amount feeds my family of 7 (until the babies eat more!)

1 cup of white rice
2 tbsp vegetable oil
2 tsp of tomato bullion
2 cups of water

Optional add ins: corn, peppers, onions, beans, salsa.
*When adding something like salsa be sure to include the amount with the liquid measurement.

I started adding corn after my husband had rice at a restaurant that did theirs this way, he loved it! The kids seem to enjoy it more too so that's a plus! When I feel fancy I throw in black beans and onions too. When adding the veggies always add them first to the warm oil before the rice. Here's how I did this bowl...

Heat the oil over medium/high heat
Add 1 cup of corn, stir.
Once the corn is hot and lightly sizzling add your rice.
Heat until it smells toasty, add bullion, stir.
Add the water and bring to a boil.
Turn heat to low/simmer and cover with a lid.
Cook for 30 minutes, turn heat off. If you have a minute to let it steam go ahead. I do for about 5 minutes before fluffing with a fork.

It couldn't be any easier! This is my most requested side dish around here. Even when guests say they don't usually eat rice, they go back for more! I hope that you give this a try and enjoy it! My family is already asking when we can have the burritos again now too, I may have to post that recipe soon!

Balancing My Time

Since the kids have been home for summer break I'm finding it hard to balance my time. I had a nice routine down that allowed me some time to work on my stuff like the blog, my Jamberry business and a few other things I like to enjoy for myself. I'm trying to entertain the kids and make sure their day is filled with different activities. I also need to keep things on a schedule, flexible but still the basic routine to make sure we get dinner and baths on time. Somewhere along the way I forgot that I could use a minute of downtime to focus on me. I'm not talking a spa day, just maybe 15 minutes on the computer, finishing my coffee or a minute for my nails.

I need to figure out a way to make sure everyone feels like they are getting to make the most of summer. We recently found a beach that is just a four minute drive from our house! We are all excited to try it and spend the day enjoying the water and sand. We also like to cook on the grill and eat on the deck together, it's how we spend most summer evenings. Finding things to keep everyone busy is not an issue, it's finding things that they can do while I get some work done that seems to be a challenge. Finding things that don't end in "I'm bored" after ten minutes is also a plus! Obviously with five kids having such different personalities, from teens to infants it's going to be hard to keep everyone occupied and happy at one time. Which is why I am laying some ground rules for the summer.

We all need the same things in our day to help us feel our best- physical activity, mental activity, independent play/work time and to do something we can all enjoy together! I have to get a better handle on how all of that happens in a day. If I don't we are in for a long summer of bickering kids and a crabby, exhausted mom! I already put together a list of things I'd like to do this summer in our area, you can see it here. I have mentally added more ideas this past week too. What the kids don't know is that their days will change soon, they'll thank me later. Right?

At the end of the year teachers send home final reports and it usually includes some things they need to work on over the summer. While I'm working on the computer a few times a week they will be working on those things for next year. Twenty minutes surely won't ruin their summer vacation, although they might act like it. The baby will nap at this time and my toddler will have time for a game on his ipad. Everybody will win! After that torture they will be ready for what comes next I'm sure- fresh air!

One of the things I need to make time for is going for a walk or jog. I would put the babies in the double stroller and walk around the lake every morning. With everyone home I haven't done that. The older kids are perfectly capable of joining me, but it's an argument believe or not. Thomas needs to be pushed in his wheelchair and they want their bikes. That doesn't work and I don't feel like hearing them bicker so we stay home. I decided today that I'm going to just make them suck it up, and I'll deal with the dirty looks. We could all benefit from the walking and they can take their bikes on the days that Thomas will have class. Once they get out in the fresh air they will be fine, we used to walk all the time in the evening. My husband works late now so we fell out of our routine for a while.

Once a week we will fit in something like the beach, zoo or something else on that list I made. It's important to me to have time to go out and enjoy a family day. When my husband is home on the weekends we like him to get in on the fun so we try to plan some day trips around town or cook a meal together. Finding balance in a big family is hard sometimes, but so important. Even though we like to enjoy each other's company it's necessary to fit in our "me time" throughout the week.

Everybody needs some downtime to do something alone, it's refreshing. Right now is proof that a little quiet time goes a long way. I have a baby napping while the other kids watch a show and color in the play room and I'm actually working on some blog posts! It will be lunchtime before I know it and kids will be yelling about being bored. Time to put our new summer plan into action and get them moving before they start arguing again.

Our Garden Update

I wrote about our new greenhouse not too long ago and was hoping for a big update by now. I really wanted to show all of you some major veggies and awesome recipes that I have planned. It turns out, even gardening doesn't go as planned! Since this is a blog about my crazy life though I thought it was a safe place to share the real life stuff that isn't always Instagram perfect... Even though I'm a big fan of that too!

Since we started the garden in a spot that turned out to be the shadiest part of our yard we had to relocate the whole greenhouse. That was the easy part! We noticed that our bell peppers are not loving life here on our wanna be farm. I think, after reading more about peppers, they were getting too much water. I also learned that the soil may not be right for them. The first few started out strong but didn't make it, so we picked them and have new ones coming up now. I'm hoping we get the hang of these delicious veggies soon. I'd love to stock my freezer up for fajitas!

The jalapenos seem to be doing great! We were able to pick quite a few off and use them for spicy chicken tacos. My little guy was so excited to go pick them, although he didn't want to eat them of course. I have a feeling we will have a lot of these peppers for the summer. I do wish they were a little hotter though, I like a little heat sometimes!

I was most excited about the tomatoes since I am always eating them on salads and making fresh sauces. We had to replace one of the plants because it didn't like being replanted. The greenhouse was definitely built to grow tomatoes! The cherry tomatoes are coming in fast now that we moved them. We have some pretty big beef steak tomatoes coming up now too! I can't wait to slice them up and put them on burgers! I'm sure I will have some good recipes to share with all of you soon.

The basil is ready to be put to good use soon too, it smells amazing when you unlock the door to head in. My onions are getting tall and I hope they exactly what I'm planning for. I love cooking with onions, I also chop and freeze them for quick recipe add ins for rice or sauce. Garlic is also growing out there, I'm eager to pick that! According to my research, it's not ready yet. Garlic is another one of those things I love to have on hand and I find that it freezes well for later use.

Even though I'm not running my own produce stand from my driveway I am enjoying the attempt at my mini produce shop! The kids think it's pretty cool when I bring in a handful of fresh ingredients to add in a salad or toss into pasta. We are calling this our practice run and hoping that next year is better! It's still early, so who knows what might grow out there! I'm on my way out now to check everything out!

What kind of things grow best for you? I'd love to know!

Time to Celebrate the Dads!

What a weekend! My husband surprised me with a last minute date night on Friday. We went to a concert outside, the weather was perfect! We had such a fun night and much needed break from our regular routine. It was a nice way to start Father's Day weekend.

I won't lie when I say I have been dreading this holiday for a month. The week leading up to it was pretty rough for me, and my siblings too I'm sure. We lost our Dad in early March this year. My husband and the kids went with me on Saturday to plant a rose bush for my Dad. I had so many things I wanted to say to him, but once I got there I lost all words. People say you will just know when he is there, you'll feel your loved one all around. I waited for that feeling, but it never came. I didn't feel that closeness in that exact spot. I do feel him quite often, all around and at odd times. It's almost like he's still trying to pull off his surprise trips back home. My Dad lived out of state so he was always just making unannounced trips back to Michigan. I decided to just not say anything. It's not something that can or should be forced. I carry a small amount of ashes in a beautiful urn necklace when I need to feel close to him, so I feel like "visiting" the family lot isn't the only way to connect with memories of him. It's taking a lot longer to heal and find peace than I expected. I know I will eventually, it wasn't going to be this Father's Day though. Even though my time with him was incredibly short, I do feel lucky knowing that I was able to see a side of him not many knew. He taught me lessons that he probably never knew he did, he also let me know how much I was loved even from so far away. Even if most days I complained about the distance between us. I spent a lot of years missing him and will continue missing him, just in a different way now. My siblings and I have grown closer again, which my Dad would've wanted. I'm thankful that we have each other, especially on holidays like this when we all knew the Dad side of him. With so many things left unsaid I just hope he felt the love this Sunday as we celebrated him in our own way, making special memories with our own families.

This is a shadow box collage my Husband made for me after my Dad passed. I look at this everyday and remember these good times.

Father's Day was also a day to celebrate another special Dad in my life. Although he's not my Dad, he is the greatest Dad I could have asked for-for my kids. Kevin is a wonderful husband and I'm so lucky to know him as a Dad. When we met we both had kids already, as I said we are a blended family. We have two more sweet babies now. Our family is crazy, loud, stressful and full of love. He handles it like he was born to do this job! I love seeing him play with the babies, helping with homework and all the other stuff that exhausts me by dinnertime. The kids and I like to make him gifts with meaning, I think he actually looks forward to getting these gifts too. This year I was impressed with how well they pulled it off, and without tears or a fight! We painted a canvas and filled a heart with thumbprints each in a different color. After adding a poem and some ribbon we have art work that is living room wall worthy! They were so excited to wrap our surprises and plan his breakfast. I am pretty proud of our family and the bond we have. My husband and I make a great team and I think our kids are learning great things to take with them when they have a family. I spent a lot of time sad and missing my Dad these last few days. Our kids were able to see their Dad with a new appreciation and celebrate having such a loving guy in their lives.

Where does the time go?

This weekend we celebrated our youngest son's birthday, Myles. He turned 3 and as it turns out that's a pretty big deal! He woke us up telling us it was his day and we needed to go look at toys and play with his friends. So after a quick trip to the store we came home and waited for his pals. This was the first time he had both of his little buddies over at the same time and he handled it pretty well!

It's funny how little things make us emotional about our kids growing up. I started thinking about all the things I have to do this week, and honestly dreading a lot of it. That's when it hit me...big things are happening! It's not about the fact that I feel like I'm running wild trying to get to everything on time, fitting in haircuts, manicures, pedicures and pictures for the kids. I'm doing all of these things to prepare them for the exciting, sometimes stressful things they are about to face. So while I'm losing any last bit of free time the school day gives me, I'm going to try and appreciate the moments I will never get back.

Let's start with my oldest, Thomas. His big moment this week is when he's leaving the school district that he's been in since preschool. He attends a school program for kids with special needs and they are making changes that just won't accommodate his needs in the next year so it makes sense to move him to our home district now. I need to go see his new room in this giant school and prepare for the anxiety that will come with this transition. The question is, who will handle it best? Probably Thomas, He's better at handling change than I am! I have been with this young man through quite a few big changes so I know we can manage this too! He's very opinionated and determined when he wants to let you know something. His smile is pretty contagious too and I'm sure his new teachers will have fun with him!

Next up, is probably the hardest for me to handle. My oldest daughter is heading to high school next year! Ciera is technically my first born, we are a blended family so Thomas became my oldest child when I married Kevin. When I had this little girl almost 14 years ago I knew this day would come, just not this fast. She's such an amazing young lady, and a big help here at home. I am proud of how caring, smart and wonderful she is, I'd like to think I helped her with that! I feel like yesterday we were taking kindergarten pictures with her hair in pig tails. Now she's asking me which lipstick to wear to her dance tomorrow! So when I wake up extra early to do her hair and help with her make up, I will fight the mushy tears and enjoy the butterflies in her stomach with her.

Logan is also having his own moment this week, tonight actually. He's preparing for a celebration and performance later to mark the last year of elementary school. I need to get his hair cut and pick some clothes. He actually asked for help! Logan only likes to wear athletic style clothes, which makes sense because he's always been on the active side...hyper, active side! This is the child that will always challenge my patience with doing things his way, on his own time. I really need him to work on time management! I also look forward to watching him grow into a young man that learns how to making Logan's way work for him. He's full of random facts and energy, and tonight I get to see a side of him that he doesn't always show. I am pretty happy to see him shine on stage, I think he will be proud of himself too!

The fact that Myles is already 3 is crazy to me. I remember planning life to include this new baby. Kevin and I were so excited, the kids couldn't wait to meet this little man. Myles just fit right in, it felt like he was always meant to be in our family. He really brought our blended family together in a whole new way. This boy is full of energy, his own opinions and so much love. He's a little bit of all of us in one little blonde haired, blue eyed, curious toddler. I love watching him grow and learn. With Myles I started my stay at home journey and I've enjoyed every minute. Even those moments that make you wish it was bedtime when it's barely lunch! I can't wait to see who he is as he gets older, I just wish it wasn't happening over night!

Last but not least, we have Ava. She brings me so much peace in my life, and in this house. She just turned 7 months old and is having some big moments too! Her first tooth popped up, she's on the move in her own way and almost ready to crawl. Ava loves to try new foods that I make her and her lovable personality is already showing. She's a mama's girl too, so I can't complain about the cuddles I get! I never thought I'd be talking about baby #5 after swearing I was done after Logan (kid #3). Here I am though, another sweet baby. Ava is even named after me, Nicole is her middle name. It was Kevin's request, he thought it was important that she be named after the most important woman in her life- his words exactly. My Dad got a bit choked up when I told him her name and the reason for it, he loved how much I am loved. She is actually pretty much a mini-me, so it worked nicely!

I really wanted to share these big moments with you. I know other parents are experiencing some pretty exciting times and wondering why it goes by so fast. Take a moment to look around, I know I will do a lot of that this week. I am sad about my babies growing up so soon, but I'm pretty excited about the people they are becoming. I get to be a part of these moments with my husband and prepare for the day when I get to experience my kids wondering the same thing. Where does the time go?

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Why Do I Blog?

There are so many reasons why people want to start a blog, and so many things to blog about. I kept thinking about starting my own and just couldn't decide on what to focus on. I like to have a plan and make sure I can follow through before starting something. I overthink everything, and have a lot to say! The thought of blogging blindly caused a bit stress, so I decided to just leave it to the pros.

Recently the thought kept coming back to me. I was looking for a way to help with the emotions of losing my Dad. I kept hearing people say that I should write down how I was feeling. The thought of writing about my emotions actually made me feel even more sadness, I didn't want to look back and relive this time. Writing about my life and the things I enjoy, things I'm good at sounded good though. With a little encouragement from my husband and a few friends I got started. I have to say, I love having a blog now!

Blogging for me gives me an outlet to talk about random thoughts and topics. I like to be in control of my environment, and having a big family I can't always get that peace! Here on Coffee & Chaos I can control how things happen, how they look, when they change and that gives me some much needed "me" time. This blog also gives me a chance to let the world, and myself know that I am much more than just a stay at home Mom. I mean, that is my full time job and all but there's much more to me that I don't always show these days.

My family and friends knows I love to cook, take pictures, do crafts and that I'm addicted to beauty products. It's just that I don't always slow down enough to actually enjoy the process and end results of that stuff as often as I'd like to anymore. Creating posts about these things forces me to slow down and enjoy it all like I used to. I am able to be creative with taking pictures, and people actually enjoy seeing them! I have been just grabbing my phone and snapping pics for so long that I forgot how much fun it was it to actually take my time photographing something. I took the two babies out for some milestone photos the other day and it was so nice to do that again like I did with the older kids, the studio may never get our money again!

Don't get me started on my love for nature pics either! I could go hunting for flowers and birds all day if I had time!

I also tend to hide behind the camera a lot, mostly because I like taking the pictures myself but I always end up wishing there was proof I was ever there.Now I enjoy getting on the other end of the lens to get pics of makeup looks and other things for my blog posts.

That's just a few of the things I've been working back into my day since starting my blog. I know I have some work to do as far as getting to know my computer, we don't always get along. My husband comes in handy with all the technical stuff so I call on him often! I am enjoying the whole blogging thing though. For now, I will continue to focus on the things I enjoy and allow writing to bring some peace in an emotional an emotional time. I am getting organized, I dusted off my planner and made room for blog work next to my Jamberry business and I'm ready to show the world (and myself) that I am still creative!

I really can't wait to share more of my life with you, I hope everyone keeps reading! Don't forget to share and follow my blog if you like it!

What's a weekend for?

It's funny how weekends change as you get older or your life moves in a new direction. Kevin and I often make jokes about the before and after of our weekends, and honestly a lot of week nights too. It seems like life changed over night! Where did the time go? Are we spending the weekends the right way?

A good cup of coffee is obviously the right way to start a weekend morning, but what about the rest of your free time? A weekend should packed full of all the things you enjoy doing before heading back to work. I thought I knew how I liked to spend a day off...

I am not sure how I managed to get through a Monday at work on so little sleep so many years ago! We loved meeting for a drink and dancing the night away every weekend! For me, I loved getting dressed up and doing a full face of make up. It was exciting when you first start dating someone to plan out your Saturday night. I knew that he was a guy the guy that I could spend my life with right away. I'm pretty sure he felt the same way about me. What I don't think we fully understood was how much different our weekends would look once we started this life. We still tried to keep up on date night fun, but it was getting harder. Once you start a new chapter in your life a lot things you thought would remain the same suddenly take a back seat.

We obviously still look forward to the weekends, but for different reasons. Our idea of fun is surprising the kids with a night out or a shopping trip to Costco. When we are feeling really wild we make use of that unexpected Kohl's coupon, you don't just waste 30% off when everybody needs new socks! Don't get me wrong, we still love to get dressed up and go out for date night. I have traded my heels in for ultra comfy slip on shoes from Payless, and I'm not even sorry. I still put on lipstick, it's called balance. It's just that date night feels different now, in a good way. A night out feels earned, it's appreciated much more these days. I feel like I've actually worked for that glass or 2 of wine, I deserve to eat my meal without sharing and while it's still hot.

Weekend days are no longer spent recovering from staying up too late and having drinks with friends. Weekends are now for recovering from a long week of being responsible, which is exhausting on a whole new level. We spend our Saturdays and Sundays running errands, catching up on house and yard work. We have gotten pretty good at grocery shopping with all 5 kids, we even manage to stay on budget (sometimes). I'm not complaining though. It was a lot fun being younger, dating Kevin and going out on the town. Our life is even more exciting now... I'm serious! There's something to be said about raising a family with the person you love. Especially after knowing what it's like to be a single Mom. I appreciate my husband and my life more than I could've ever imagined. I actually find it pretty refreshing knowing that my life is predictable, I'm not big on change anyway.

So, I guess what I'm saying is that weekends are for enjoying whatever stage of life you are in. As much as fun as it was to live in the moment all those weekends ago, I'm happy those days are gone. I do joke quite often about reliving the fun times, but I definitely wouldn't go back. I am thankful and excited that I get to be in this new stage, making memories with my family. I will look forward to date nights with my husband, joking about how we've changed as we pass out by 10 pm. One day our kids will be off spending Saturday night their way too, and we will start a new stage of weekends again.

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Summer Break is Coming

It's almost that time of year again. The school year is coming to an end and kids everywhere can't wait to empty their lockers. Which means parents everywhere might be starting to panic a little! I know I am!

I used to be so organized in my planning. I would start my shopping by now for activities, lunches and fun summer themed parties. It seems that adding two more babies threw me off of my game a little bit. Not to mention, the original crew of kids are getting older and harder to entertain! Luckily though, the two bigger ones love to play with the babies and see them experience the things they used to love. They are also very helpful with Thomas, he is my child with some special needs.


I started going through some old pictures recently of many summers ago, we sure had fun! We love to vacation in Florida and have done that for a few years.

This year with buying a house we decided that it would be best to have a little "stay-cation" and find stuff to do around here. Or maybe our budget after remodeling decided for us... either way, here we are!

With all the stressful weeks lately I thought it would be helpful to try out that organization and planning thing again. I haven't quite made an official list yet, but I'm sure it'll come to me soon. I do know that we will take advantage of our annual Detroit Zoo membership. I have actually gone twice already! It's a great way to get out for a full day, and since we don't pay for each visit we save money! I am hoping to catch one of the evening events with the kids during the summer concert series this year too.

There are quite a few things near us that are on my list of outings. I think we should be able to pull a few of them off! Not everything is easy to do with my husband working so late and far and my oldest being in a wheelchair. Thomas does attend school for half of the summer, that's helpful for him! He does best with a consistent routine, so do I honestly! That's why I just feel like being prepared with a few ideas could help for those days that we need an adventure! Now, after sharing my ideas with you I might be held accountable to get moving!

In our area we have some great Splash Pads. It's like a mini water park, without the rides. The kids love to run around, and I love that they burn some energy. The one I like is located in a local park so it's free to use!


We like to the visit the 4h fair. It's a lot of fun to see the farm animals, homemade crafts and of course eat some carnival food! It's the only time I get to pet baby goats! The kids like to join in on some fun eating contests too!

We also live near a lake so that will be put to good use, I already bought a picnic basket! The village here puts on a 4th of July event. I hear it's a big deal! We won't even have to leave our house!

The last few summers we didn't have much of a yard so we didn't really entertain much. This year I'd like to have some fun in our new yard with family and friends! Some of my nephews already came to play ball with my kids. I love seeing those older boys have fun with the younger group. We could definitely use some more days like that!

A state park is also on my list. It's not usually a part of our summer agenda, but it should be! I would love to go for a day to walk on a nature trail, have a picnic and just let the kids run around. We could even take the dog!

So, there it is! Just a few ideas I'd like to make time for this summer. Of course I have some little activities to do at home like crafts and projects with the supplies we have. My husband thinks I save too many containers and useless stuff, but I have plans! He sees junk and I see art and free fun for the big imaginations our little ones have! I plan to get creative this summer so that I don't let the chaos get the best of me!

What about you? Will you be traveling or keeping busy at home? I'd love to hear about how you like to have summer fun!